Helicopter parents now follow their children to job interviews and salary talks
College administrators in the early 2000s noticed parents phoning each morning to wake students for class and complaining to professors about grades. As that generation moved on, the hovering followed: into law school admissions, and then into workplaces, where parents turned up or called managers to negotiate their adult children's pay.
The image is older than the label. In his 1969 best-seller Between Parent and Teenager, Haim Ginott quoted a teenager grumbling that his mother hovered over him like a helicopter. The phrase helicopter parent circulated from the late 1980s and took off when the oldest millennials reached campus. Researchers prefer overparenting, a term that includes fathers, and define it as involvement that is excessive or wrong for a child's stage of development.
The demographer Neil Howe sees it as the signature style of baby-boomer parents, contrasting it with Generation X stealth-fighter parents, who let small things slide but strike hard when something serious happens. Its rise coincided with the booming 1990s economy and a growing public sense that children were in danger, a fear the free-range parenting advocate Lenore Skenazy calls rooted in paranoia. Mobile phones and soaring tuition, which some parents say they are protecting like any investment, feed it too.
The outcomes look mixed. One cross-national survey found helicopter parents reported greater happiness. But a University of Florida study of 500 students linked the style to more emotional problems, weaker decision-making and poorer grades, and a Beijing study found it undermined leadership skills. In a 2019 University of Michigan poll, a quarter of parents admitted they were the main barrier to their teenager's independence, often because doing things themselves was simply easier.
The vocabulary keeps multiplying. Snowplow or lawnmower parents clear obstacles out of the way in advance, trailing parents buy or rent homes near their child's college, and at Tianjin University in China, freshmen's parents have slept in so-called love tents on the gym floor.
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